Finding the Right Flower Essences for You

There are so many ways to find Flower Essences that will offer support to you in any situation you would like support with.

One thing to know as you begin your search is to know that it can be a relaxed and unpressured one. Why? Because Flower Essences are wonderfully versatile in their strengths and most choices are going to offer some support. And if you get a Flower Essence that doesn’t have relevant information, it won’t hurt you because Flower Essences are electrical information not chemical remedies.

However we know that sometimes it is wonderful to get the Flower Essences that will help very precisely and efficiently.  To find very specific Flower Essence suggestions for specific concerns, there are a lot of ways to proceed.

Some of you dear people find supportive Flower Essences by looking at photos of Flowers to see what catches your attention.  Others look to specific geographical collections, following the bead of a place that calls to you.

The Rose Garden Essences aren’t a specific geographical collection, but they often call to people too as different kinds of Flowers can also call to us.

Back in the day when our Guidebook was more central to people’s process with Flower Essences, many of you would open the book “at random” and then read the description of the Essence or Essences on that page.  The Essences described on the page were often precisely what you were looking for.  The Guidebook is still available.  I love this book and am grateful the Angels asked me to write it.

So many of you listen to your dreams and intuition and will call or email us asking for a certain Flower because of this inner knowing.  I love how often people have dreams about FLOWERS!

A very concrete tool is our Flower Essences for Common Concerns document on our Resources page.  It is SUCH a great resource for finding exactly what you are looking for.

We have been working on this document for thirty years. All of us on the staff refer to it every day.  We also update it on a very regular basis as new topics of concerns are brought to our attention (Yes, there is a reason it’s 121 pages long and growing!).

Whenever you request a Flower Essence for a certain situation, if there is not a category for this concern in this document, we address the concern by getting back to you with our suggestions then editing the Common Concerns document with what we have learned.  To gather suggestions, we try and recall situations where we have addressed this issue. Your feedback is often very helpful in this search for suggestions.  We also  ask the Angels for their suggestions.

Take for example this morning when a mother  wrote about her concerns for her young child, adopted by her after 15 months in a orphanage.  Her child’s therapist had suggested she check with us for Flower Essences for his attachment disorder with presenting symptoms of fear, anger and aggression.

Many Flower Essence suggestions came to mind, and the Angels had their own suggestions and way they wanted to organize the information.   We suggested a custom mix of Flower Essences for this young child and gave his mom our Flower Essence suggestions organized based on the Angels’ input.

The reason we suggested a mix is that it allows us to cover lots of different concerns within the general concern and also is a very easy way to offer a small child Flower Essences.

We also added  Attachment Disorder to our categories on the Flower Essences for Common Concerns list with the Angels’ Flower Essence suggestions listed per their topics.  The Angels’ way of presenting their suggestions via topics reminded me that anger is rarely the bottom emotion but often the one covering sadness beneath.  This child may well be suffering the wound of the original loss of a secure caretaker figure resulting in a sadness that is permeating his current life in a loving household.

Support for healing the original loss: Arbor Garden, Grief & Loss, Wound Healing                                                                                                                   For fear and anger: Outburst, Maple, Dill, Abandonment & Abuse, Old Blush China Rose                                                                                                                   Feeling lost in past losses even when in loving new home: Abandonment & Abuse
Restoring feeling of connection to others: Arbor Garden, Queen Anne’s Lace, Angelica, Rosemary
Turning the situation around: The Alignment Garden, Larkspur

This mother’s request gave us an inservice that will hopefully help others as we go along.  I am always so struck by the way the Angels come at a concern and the Flower Essences they suggest.

For example, the Angels suggested three Flowers that share a similar architecture of smaller units connected to the whole in a sort of circular dome: Queen Anne’s Lace, Angelica and Dill.  And the Angels bring them forward here because all of them help us rise up into a feeling of connection to each other, a connection that helps us feel empowered by our oneness.


I know that I have said before how vital your input is. I hope this blog underscores this.  We needed this young mother’s question to generate a conversation with the Angels that will in turn help improve the ease with which others dealing with Attachment Disorder can find supportive Flower Essences. Thank you one and all for your questions, your stories about Flower Essences and all your sharing.  It is all appreciated so very much.

The Kindness of Wildflower Essences and So Many Other Beloveds

Last night I had a dream in which I found myself taking the SATs again.  It was a classic anxiety dream.  I was at the test center trying to psych myself up to take the test but not doing a very good job. After all I have been out of college for 39 years.  Was it really necessary to take these tests again?  Apparently it was, and I needed to kill it.  Meanwhile I felt unprepared and bewildered that I was expected to sit down AGAIN with a #2 pencil and get filling in those bubbles.

When I awoke, I thought about the last time I took the SATs at the age of 17.  I wondered what I would I tell young Molly if I could talk to her after she left the test?

Would I tell her, well, your first boyfriend is going to dump you next week, but don’t worry, you’ll be okay.  It’s a good thing. There really ARE other fish in the sea.

Would I tell her that during that same week she was going to get rejected from her first choice college to which she had applied early decision, but that too would be okay. She would eventually be VERY glad she didn’t go there.

Would I tell her she also was going to flunk her driver’s test that week, but that too would be okay as she would pass the second time.

To top off all this cheery news, would I also mention that the night her boyfriend dumped her she was going to be home alone babysitting her little brothers, one of whom was going to throw up all over his bedroom all night long? And I mean ALL NIGHT LONG!

Hmmmmm.  Maybe not.

Maybe I would just tell her that no matter what happened, she was going to be okay, and that she would not miss her life. Maybe I’d just give her a hug and remind her she was loved.  Maybe not by that dirtbag boyfriend, but still, she was loved.

And so the dream was a good reminder to me to stop worrying about current concerns.  All those screwball Mercury retrograde/ snow storm/computer snafus that occurred yesterday?  It will be okay.  We’ll untangle all the tangles.

And that crowd coming for many, many, many meals over the next holiday stretch? They will be fine no matter what I serve them, so maybe its NOT time to resuscitate the Vegan/ Meat Fest Thanksgiving menu, that meal that almost killed me in its complexity.

And when I get off balance about the bigger picture stuff? Something about that dream reminded me it’s not about “doing it right” that matters, but just being there with an open heart towards myself and everyone else in our moments of suffering, big and little. It’s the only way forward.  Things go wrong.  Mistakes are made.  But if we are gentle with ourselves and each other in all these circumstances, it will be okay. We’ll figure it out.

The Flower Essences that I find myself reaching for a lot right now are the Wildflower Essences.  They really know how to endure and even thrive in very tough conditions.  They adapt to challenging even extreme circumstances and never miss a beat.  They are also surprisingly kind.  They welcome us as we are and offer their complete undivided support. They are very wise because they have followed the bead of their own evolution with such complete focus, but they are more than happy to bring that wisdom back to us and share it completely.  Who could ask for more?

We have a wall of individual bottles of all our Essences for us to use in our daily water bottles.  I’ve found myself reaching for many Wildflowers each day including Fragrant Ladies TressesNiella, Silver-rod, Bottle Gentian and Pearly Everlasting.

I suggested the Pearly Everlasting to a spry octogenarian yesterday, but she didn’t want to identify with a Flower Essence that described itself as being there to help older folks.  I had to appreciate her sass in not putting herself in the category of senior citizen.  I’ve always felt very old even when I was 17 (both before and after that particular week from hell).  I appreciate that Pearly Everlasting wants to reach out to those of us that don’t have the electrical circuit boards of younger generations.  I want to stay here for the adventure of what lies ahead and appreciate that this Flower Essence and so many others are helping me be able to do so.

I come back to the truth that we all need help right now whether we get it from Flower Essences or in other ways.  It takes a village right now of Flowers and Angels and animals and kind friends and kind strangers. I feel grateful to have so many beloveds to travel along this road with.

Maybe that would have been the most important thing to say to young Molly that day, “You are not alone.”

How to get the most from Flower Essences

Many of you ask us how to get the most from Flower Essences.

As I consider this question, it occurs to me to look at the two groups that make the most of Flower Essences. These two groups are children and animals.

Children and animals have a particular knack for letting Flower Essences help them heal completely, swiftly and painlessly.  In fact, many of you come to us for Flower Essences for yourselves after seeing the results with your animals.

This is the story we hear again and again- You arrive home to find a relaxed animal friend sprawled on top of the box of Flower Essences from us, clearly feeling better- and this is just the beginning of his or her return to health and well-being.

What is it about animals and children that allows them to get so much from Flower Essences?

Neither animals or children have any defensiveness about what Flower Essences offer.  Instead they seem to recognize Flower Essences as familiar old friends that bring them exactly what they need to get better.

Perhaps this open hearted trust is because their connection to the natural world is more intact than for many of us. This leaves them free to recognize these gift from nature immediately.

Perhaps this welcoming attitude is because they have not been made cynical by people or products that promise the moon and don’t deliver.

Whatever the case, it is an enviable open-heartedness.

For children and animals, working with Flower Essences is a simple exchange. They go out to greet the incoming energy of the Flower Essences with a sense of this being the way things are meant to be.

Children that cannot read and haven’t even had Flower Essences explained to them will confidently pick a Flower Essence from a group of bottles and say, “This is the one for me.”

May we all return to this state of recognition about what we need and our right to have this support.

That is another thing difference between animals and children and most of the rest of us. They usually do not have the filter that suggests they do not deserve to heal unless they move mountains and/or suffer deeply beforehand.  No, it is even more simple than that. They don’t have the filter that they don’t deserve to heal.

For way too many of us, we don’t feel deserving of healing. If you feel that you might in any way believe that you don’t deserve to heal, consider giving this idea to the Flower Essences as a concern you want the Essences to help you release. We do deserve health and well-being. Period.

It is also wonderful to ask the Angels to work with the Flower Essences to release ideas like this.  So many unhelpful ideas can lie within us  without us knowing these ideas are there or why we might cling so tenaciously to them. I like how the Flower Essences and the Angels help us dump inner garbage without us having to pick through the garbage on its way to the dump!

As the Angels have reminded me for thirty years, it’s the ASKING for help and the WILLINGNESS TO RECEIVE THE HELP that matters.  They remind us all to not get caught up inner arguments about deserving but to just let go.  This is the natural flow for a child or animal who has not yet been hurt by the world. Nothing impedes the flow of asking for what is needed. Nothing impedes the flow of receiving what is asked for.

May we all find our way back to this state of grace.

On a more practical note, if a Flower Essence is not doing what you hoped it would do for you, put it in a spritzer bottle with some water (the proportions here do not matter!)  and spritz around and over yourself frequently. This REALLY improves efficacy for more reasons than I could possibly know or explain.

And for goodness sake, drink more water!  That also helps the energy of the Flower Essences to move through your system.

One last thought- A Green Hope Farm recently sent me a transcribed conversation she had with an Angel named Aine. This Angel wants to work with more people to help them get the most from Flower Essences. I hope today, by mentioning Aine, more people will ask to work with her.

Aine also expressed a concern shared by the Angels here: As more light floods the planet, the animals have the double burden of making their own energetic shifts PLUS fulfilling their job to help us make our energetic shifts. The animals are weighed down by these two jobs. Especially right now as all of us scramble to keep up with enormous energy shifts, they need Flower Essences very badly.

Angel Aine is focused on helping us help the animals. If we want to call to her when we are choosing Flower Essences for our beloved companions or using the Essences with the animals in our life, she will help us. Thank you Lois Hartwick for sharing this information about Aine.

Here are the original children and animal that taught me so much about Flower Essences.  Thank you Emily, Benjamin, Cody and Elizabeth.

A Vegan/Meat Lovers Thanksgiving Gala!

Hello my dear friends! It’s that old chestnut, my Thanksgiving blog!

So here it is- my special shout out to all you fellow cooks getting ready for the big game meal next week.

Is your menu written on a napkin all set? Is it like a peace treaty between warring countries fluid like mine?

Are there some nutty new additions and I don’t mean just to the guest list. Has plant based eating hit your extended family like a tornado like it has hit mine?

Yes, here at the farm we are all wondering what great grandma is going to make of all those vegan sides!

And what WILL the sides be here at the farm? Two of my adult children are just back from a bachelor party in Nashville so we know what sides THEY would like.


(And we do make a good one- see page 142 of our farm cookbook The Things We Cook for the recipe).

Here’s my copy of The Things We Cook– well loved and with a fair amount of penciled in vegan adaptations in the margins also very decorated as we realized this cookbook makes a great coloring book no matter one’s dietary persuasion.

Cookbook aside,  while various people lobby for their choice of sides, I, as the person elbowing my way into my own kitchen in charge of the Thanksgiving kitchen, pretend I have no plan so no one can complain in advance continue to craft the perfect menu in my head.

Full disclosure: I have informed the twenty one people who are coming to our shindig that they can expect some unique and festive dishes that may only appear once on the menu but will live on in infamy expect the unexpected.

I have intimated to several of those particularly near and dear to me that the menu is going to be a complete break from anything ever cooked here veer towards gluten free, dairy free and animal free. They have had a strong reaction to the news upped the ante in their corner by volunteering to do more cooking.

So…..there may be a shepherd’s pie with vegan mashed potatoes and smoked paprika, sunflower romanesco and lentil filling on the table but according to the meat police traditionalists there will also be TURKEY, GIBLET GRAVY, DUCK,  SALAMI AND CHIPPED BEEF.

My question about these meat demands suggestions: Has there EVER been a traditional Green Hope Farm Thanksgiving with Duck or Salami or Chipped Beef LET ALONE ALL THREE? I think this is a BIT of an overreaction to the news of my plans for a semi-vegan Thanksgiving.

In any case, it has all been pretty light hearted so far with no actual threats as no one is too righteous in their choices. And I find it fun to explore new cooking directions. It’s somewhat like diving into the water at the arctic circle for a refreshing dip while a crowd of thousands watch.

No seriously, I love a reckless crazed bold adventure. And perhaps this year will have especially bold, might I say dangerous moments…. As everyone will attest who has even breezed through the farm in the last few months, I am infatuated with my new pressure cooker, and it is ALWAYS going. I promise that I am usually vaguely moderately super attentive and never leave the room when the pressure is up. THERE IS NO CAUSE FOR ALARM.

And thanks to My Precious, aka my pressure cooker, when beloveds come through the kitchen looking for snacks, there is heartbreak that the formerly endless stash of cakes and cookies has been replaced by tamari almonds and rice crackers there are vast quantities of yummy superfoods including soooooo many beans and ancient grains pressure cooked to perfection and ready for someone to quietly compost savor with great enjoyment.

Exhibit A- What pantry snoops hope to find.

Exhibit B- What they are apt to find.

But back to the Thanksgiving feast in all its glory!

This year at the farm, there is one thing we can all agree upon: Potato chips this is the fact that there is so much to be grateful for even if for some of us it’s a thing with feathers and for some of us, not so much.


Evolving Beyond our Definition of Self

On one of the handouts we’ve sent off in recent months, the Angels note that humanity is evolving from a paradigm of selfishness to selflessness. A number of you have asked me if I would ask the Angels what they meant by this.

I thought of your request when I was at a friend’s family gathering this weekend. As I saw how her family viewed my friend, I was struck by how differently I saw her. We all seemed to have a limited and different view of her self. I was reminded that all too often being familiar with someone or being family to someone brings the person an experience of being pinned down by who people think he or she is.

We are always more than even the people who know us well can grasp.

I wondered if our limiting filters of perception were the problem that created humanity’s selfishness. After all, selfishness only arises when we identify ourselves and others as limited and separate beings. If we understand all of us to be an infinite collective in oneness, then acting from separate self interest against another becomes an obsolete notion.

So therein lies the challenge- to evolve beyond every definition of self, be it one we hold of ourselves or one laid on us by others, and allow this for everyone else as well.

The Angels explore this in their description of the new Lisianthus Flower Essence. This Essence brings encouragement to expand our idea of self as whole beyond limits. As the Angels note,

Lisianthus encourages us to tap into each person’s eternal identity unhinged from experiences in this realm of learning lessons. It encourages us to hold fast to this divine identity instead of zeroing in on the thin slice of imperfection we see play out as each of us goes through our necessary Earth experiences.”

Another way to think about this came to me after a conversation with Emily Sheehan Carey.  Our self is like a well. Our self definitions and the ones the world has heaped on us can be like weeds and brambles covering the well. These brambles obscure but do not tarnish who we really are. The well is still there.

We are always free to push aside these brambles, pry off even the heaviest of well coverings and remove the leaves from the top of the water to dip our bucket deep into the sweet, cool, clear waters of our eternally replenishing, eternally creative, eternally evolving self.

Lisianthus Flower Essence reminds us to not lay brambles on anyone’ well. It reminds us not to try to reduce anyone to a description based on what we observe. We always have, what Purple Flowering Raspberry calls, “the unmet corridors of our hearts and a glorious wilderness of our souls.”

 How do we go about the work of seeing everyone as infinite beings of great depths and thus shift the paradigm from selfishness to selflessness? How do we remember that we are all in disguise from our true divine unlimited identity?

As I wrote this, I felt a bit bad that having introduced this blog as a chance for the Angels to explain, I then wrote my thoughts, but the Angels responded to my concern with, “WE ARE NOT SEPARATE.”

The Angels continued,  “It’s not about you getting out of the way for us or us waiting to speak after you. We are each of us experiencing our oneness, our eternal self in each other no matter who has the floor.

This is one way to consider the issue of those around you who seem preoccupied with maintaining the mistaken notion of separation.  Of course you must sometimes get out of the way of this erratic energy, but you also have a chance to see this energy as something reflecting back to you for your learning. Is there any kernel of your own in what is coming at you? As you consider this, you bring light to something unowned within you and that brings light to everyone. And this willingness to “own” what can be viewed as “another person’s issues” breaks down the illusion of separation in a powerful way.

Selfishness is based on an illusionary idea that there is a separate self to defend and protect. The reality is that whatever you experience as within or without is actually within you in an infinity shared by everyone.”

As a community of Flowers, Angels, Nature Spirits, Dogs, Cats and even some People, Green Hope Farm can be a funny place……and I love telling you all about it!